Be vulnerable.

Being Vulnerable is one of the hardest things about being a songwriter, at least for me it is. You spend all this time writing and creating these songs. You pour your heart and soul into them, they become like children you want to protect. The idea of opening up the opportunity for people to scrutinize them weighs heavy on your mind. If you are anything like me, when you do share them, you start to develop some form on anxiety. Eager to hear what people think but at the same time are terrified that they didn’t like it. You know what? Who fucking cares if they don’t like it? Somewhere, someone else will. You just have to keep telling yourself that.
There is a certain honesty that comes from opening up and being vulnerable with songwriting. In order to write a song that others can connect with, I’m talking chill bumps down your arms, heart skipping a beat because a song has connected with your heart so immensely that it alters the rhythm of your very soul. You have to be completely honest with yourself and the listener. Doesn’t sound to hard right? Well no, not really, writing the song is the easy part. It is the sharing and allowing the opportunity for criticism and for people not to react to it the way you imagined them doing. We have all experienced this at some point in our life. There is an uncontrollable beauty in the whole process.
So, how do we overcome this fear of our “children” not being accepted by our friends, family, strangers, and peers? I suppose you just have to decide for yourself one day who are you making music for? Them? Or yourself?
Like many things in life overcoming your fear of rejection requires some effort on your part. You have to be willing to put yourself out there and be open for feedback. You have to keep telling yourself that it is just one persons opinion. Stop focusing on it, instead try to find the positive in what they said. Unless someone just straight up says “ I hate this,” chances are they had at least one good thing to say about the work. They may not have liked it as whole but there may have been a line that they enjoyed. Focus on that. With everything in life there is good and bad, try to find the silver lining. I promise it is there. You just have to look.
With all that being said I would be some kind of hypocrite (I strongly dislike those people) if I didn’t open myself up to being vulnerable. I am including a link to some of my songs on SoundCloud. Please stop by and listen to them, let me know what you think. Even if you think they suck, its ok I am a big girl, I can take it.

“Go On” original



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